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These days, the order of the toasts can be very confusing because the couple feels the pressure of fitting everything in-between the other evening's events. But, the toasts are very important elements of expression that helps the flow of the evening. When the bridal party and family members share personal memories and experiences, they help the wedding guests learn new and interesting facts about the bride and groom, which can add to the evening's entertainment and intimacy.
Although you can make the order of the toasts work in a way that is best for you, this is the traditional order. We suggest that those who present the toasts keep the timing to a minimum so the guests do not lose interest and the timing of food service, dancing, etc. is not restricted. Don't worry if you don't have a traditional MC, as your DJ or bandleader can take that position (as long as you work that out with that professional). It is in your best interest to make sure you have someone handle the flow of the evening and make announcements when necessary.
Generally, you will find the father of the bride speaks first. The wedding MC or the DJ will call on the father of the bride at a pre-determined time during the reception. The father of bride usually welcomes his new son in law to the family, talks about his daughter, and welcomes the guests.
Next, the groom responds. He will thank his father in law for the kind words and then thank his own parents for their help in his life. He thanks his wife for marrying him and he also toasts the bridesmaids.
Next up is the best man. In this speech, the best man is supposed to entertain the guests, be funny, and emotional all at the same time.
At this point the maid of honor should give her toast. She should toast the bride and groom, and the guests.
HOWEVER, we find that it works best to have the groom do his toast after the cake is cut, and allow the bride to respond to the toast. Typically, the couple will also use this time to thank their guests for attending.
We prefer something like this order:
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